Thoughts To Ponder
RJ’s quotes
“My Broken Pieces
A few weeks back, a longtime friend asked if I would meet her for lunch to discuss a new job offer. We sat in the restaurant for forty-five minutes discussing her new job opportunity when her face grew solemn. She sighed, staring down into her plate.
I asked, “is everything all right,” knowing she did not ask me to meet to discuss a job offer.
She said, “everything is fine, but I cannot get your story or quote about the broken pieces out of my mind.” She took a deep breath raised her head and, in half whisper, said, “it really described the broken pieces in my marriage?
I answered, “when promises, borders and commitment are broken, and especially betrayal, the relationship may be repaired but never return to what it once was or could have been.”
Before she left, she thanked me for giving her a copy. I refer to the story, as “The Broken Vase.”
The Broken Vase
Love and marriage are often broken by betrayal, lies and unkept promises. Betrayal is the ultimate form of deceit and deception. It reminded me of something I wrote many years ago about a vase that was knocked off the shelf and broken into many pieces. For a moment you’re not sure what to do but then you decide to try and repair it. Imagine trying to pick up the pieces of your life, left behind in the wake of betrayal. You must be methodical and cautious because your path is covered with egg shells. You realize it may not be the same as it once was, but would vase be good enough to keep. After all, you’ve had it for thirty years.
When you believe all the pieces have been collected and placed on the table, you do one last search for the smallest pieces you may have missed. You find two small pieces, place them on the table and stare down at the broken pieces of something you cherished and was beautiful. Something so precious you often proudly displayed it to friends Over a period of three weeks, you managed to glue the vase back together. You slowly turn it around on the table and realize it is an archaic reproduction of its original form. There are holes in it created by pieces you did not find and never will. Like the pieces missing from your relationship. Held together by history and commitment but still broken. And severely damaged.
The vase will never hold flowers again because it cannot hold water. And like your relationship, it has become fragile as you watch a piece fall off the vase when you lifted off the table. And when you think about the broken pieces collected from your relationship, you know that will also never be the same. As you held up the beautiful vase to show people it’s beauty, that now is simply a collection of glued pieces that resembles your relationship. You can no longer showcase your marriage.
Only because of its history you place the vase back on the self, but it seems out of place and detracts from the ambience around it. After a few weeks you take the vase to your home office and place it on a shelf. A few weeks later, you sadly change the location to the closet. And like your relationship it has been moved to a different place. A dark place. When people say to you, you and your wife seem to get along very well. You think about showing them the vase. All that remains of the relationship is held together by glue. After several years you are still seeking out the missing pieces from your heart knowing deep inside you will never find. There’s only one way to get them back and that is to leave. But leaving will also mean breaking more pieces.
Those are your two choices. If you leave, you will get back some of the pieces you lost but you would lose others by virtue of leaving.”— RJ Intindola – 2001
Points To Ponder
There are seven things you can never get back.
1. Words after they have been spoken.
2. A stone after it has been thrown.
3. A moment or occasion after it has passed.
4. A person after they have passed.
5. Time once it has passed.
6. Betrayal after it has transpired.
7. A lie after it has been spoken.
RJ Intindola Quotes
Hobos and Poets
“Hobos and Poets.” This was written in 1979. A battle against evil and help for the downtrodden. First third of poem.
So many have come and gone before
I don’t know who they were and what they dreamed to be
Some were hobos and poets, but most were real
Their lives rolled through an alley into the tragedy
Well the time has come once again
To cross the bridge to the vast unknown
And with all the will and power that I may have
It’s just a vision, I call my own
Fore tonight I’m going to change things
As only the strong can do
Fore life is so limited to waste
The way most people do
And with all the strength I have within me
My God, can you help me, just this one time
Yes, I know I’ve not been to you before
But that was when I was in my prime
Well, we fought till we had nothing
A darkened evil thought they had won the war
But instead we came back at them
And gave our pain some more
Fore when the dust had settled
The masses called us bold
Fore we left there with them standing, naked
Alone, and in the cold.
Thoughts to Ponder
With all due respect to my many Facebook friends, please accept these as my personal opinions only and in no way is intended to condemn any individual or a position a person may possess. For the next six months, I will be mainly concentrating on attempting to get as many Democratic candidates elected as possible. Therefore, please refrain from sending me requests to play, “Solitaire in Wonderland,” “Worlds of wonder,” “Buggle,” “Lucky slots,” “Puzzle charms,” “Birthdays,” “Diamond dash,” “Press your luck,” “Casino star,” “Criminal case,” “Candy crush,” “Farm heroes saga,” and finally (thank God), “Coasterville.” None of these games interest me and until such time as Facebook creates the “NSA Sex Poker crush press in wonderland,” I will never be a participant. This most humble request of mine will save at least 50 to 60 of you time each month by removing me from the playlist.
Furthermore, I have never watched a movie 100 times and therefore cannot participate in your requests to name such a movie. However, if I live to be 105, I could probably make the list and will tell you in advance, it’s the Wizard of Oz. For the next 50 years, you can relax.
Lastly, and this irks me the most. If you are not going to like my page, don’t ask me to like yours. I typically agree to every friends request to like their page but check back one week later to see if they have liked mine. Unfortunately, I end up removing my like approximately 70% of the time.
So if you’re wondering exactly what interest I have and what I stand for, I’ll offer you the following:
Protecting the rights of women to make their own choices and decisions regarding their sexuality and personal beliefs. And equal pay for equal work.
Protecting the rights of people to vote against the anarchists who hide behind the fist of religion and godliness.
Ensuring that no one dies because they do not have access to proper health care.
Protecting the rights of minorities
Ensuring our veterans have proper health care and are provided jobs upon their return. After all, many of the jobs driven overseas occurred as a result of federal government policies and therefore the federal government owes the people something in return. Sorry for the additional commentary.
Creating jobs
PS: in 1980, I wrote in a publication about the four experiences you can never get back. A few years later I added a fifth experience. And in 1996 two others were added. I have listed these for you below. Please be aware that my name is not Anonymous.
Seven experiences you can never get back.
1. Words after they have been spoken.
2. A stone after it has been thrown.
3. A moment or occasion after it has passed.
4. A person after they have passed.
5. Time once it has passed.
6. Betrayal after it has transpired.
7. A lie after it has been spoken.
RJ Intindola